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Moving too fast?

3 replies

OasisFan · 04/01/2026 20:51

I've been divorced 5 years. 1 DC age 7. Done a bit of OLD and finally met someone who seems decent, kind, caring. It's been about 8 months now and he has suggested meeting his kids. I feel a bit reluctant, but I'm not sure why. Is it moving too fast? Is it that I'm not sure about it all? Am I scarred by my previous relationship and too apprehensive? Anyone got any advice on how to sort my feelings out?

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puzaru · 04/01/2026 20:57

For me it would be too soon. if you're feeling uncomfortable don't meet them until you are ok with it. It's only eight months. If you get to the twelve month period then maybe consider it again.

Beautitul · 04/01/2026 20:59

Listen to your gut feeling.

Catza · 04/01/2026 21:26

Who knows. But I generally think that bringing up meeting kids should come from parents of said kids. This doesn't mean anything is wrong with the guy, I just can't comprehend ever asking someone to introduce me to their kids unless they decided it was a good time and brought it up themselves.

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