I had a friend who would subtly insult me and be sarcastic and other times she could be lovely. I had to ghost and block her in the end as I had told her before about her behaviour and she promised not do it again but always did. I know to was cowardly but it was affecting my mental health and was being disrespectful. Other friends experienced the same and they had to end their friendships with her too.
A couple she knew and had fallen out with became friends with her again after lockdown but they have fallen out again. She plays the victims saying to others her ex friends were not worth bothering with even though she inflicted hate and pain on to them. Why should we keep tolerating it.
She met a woman in her job sector as they are both self employed and met as the same events. They are both in their 40s and are best friends now. What makes me sad is why does she treat this woman with respect and not put her down or insult her? Yet she was awful to myself and others. Myself and other friends were really nice people and didn’t deserve it.