I have an amazing boyfriend but keep thinking about someone else

[Guilty87]

I really need someone to knock some sense into me. I'm in my late 30s and I've been with my bf for a year and a half and I fell in love with him pretty quickly, I did go on some dates with another guy around the same time I met him but chose my boyfriend as I decided I didn't want to see both of them at the same time and I knew I was falling for my boyfriend.
I did quite like the other guy at the time but just felt more drawn to my bf.
He is incredible and his love has never wavered, he is so consistent and reliable, and does really cute romantic things.
I can't fault him as a person and we have a good sex life.
However I've started to wonder would the other guy have been more suitable as I have noticed that there are a couple of things that my boyfriend and I don't have in common that I did with the other guy.
It's only lately I have started reminiscing about the other guy as it ended abruptly and I never got to explore it. I really hate that I'm feeling like this when I have such a wonderful boyfriend.
Wtf is wrong with me?!

You're late 30s and acting like a lovestruck teenager, not much else to say.

Familiarity

Your boyfriend is 90% what you like

The other guy is the other 10%

You are taking your boyfriend for granted now and all that he brings. Which is a lot.

Forget the other guy. You are just fantasising because you feel there is something missing. He is not perfect, you know that’s why you didn’t continue with him and chose your boyfriend.

You can make up the 10% yourself, with friends work hobbies etc. your boyfriend sounds like a good one. Nobody can be 100% all things in a relationship.

@3luckystars thank you , that's really helped. It's been the last month or so and I have been getting these unwanted thoughts about the other guy wondering if I made the right choice. But what's annoying is, if I had chosen him , I would still be here wondering about my boyfriend and how things would have gone with him. I can't win. I just happened to meet 2 people that l liked at the same time and had to choose.

OP, you have won: you are with a BF who is almost all that you could want - no-one is ever going to be 100%. You may have had a couple of things in common with the other chap, but not enough to want to choose him over your BF. You have a great relationship with a loving partner - don’t ruin it.

@Guilty87 - i was sort of in your shoes eons ago. Was single for several years and then had a “men are like buses moment” when two amazing (to me) guys declared themselves at the same time. 25+ years later, I’m still with the one i chose.

PPs are right. No-one ticks every box. However, the guy you’re with sounds like he’s ticking a great many boxes. It’s just that you’re coming down off that initial “crazily in love” high where you probably ceased to notice any other men. You’re moving into the more real phase which is in many ways deeper and stronger but calmer and less flashy.

He sounds like a keeper and I’m pretty sure you would regret walking away from him.

You instinctively choose the right one and it’s lasted so far, I guess it’s a bit of rose tinted glasses and FOMO.
Try and remember the deal breakers with the other one and why you didn’t choose, or perhaps you just had a stronger feeling for you now bf, it sounds like you went with the right choice. Also it ok not to perfectly match about everything, you are still an individual.

Sounds like you’re coming out of the honeymoon phase and wondering if the grass is greener. It generally isn’t, sounds like you’ve got a lovely relationship, stick with it