Just looking for advice on what you did? I've been feeling quite low for a few years about my marriage. Perhaps I'm feeling it more now as I've just come off ADs, which I've been on for a few years. Also prob peri menopause. Reading a lot of other posts I feel bad as essentially DH has done absolutely nothing wrong. He's kind, works hard, pulls his weight as much as he can with kids. But something is wrong. Our relationship is mainly logistics. I've lost that connection with him. He can be quite emotionally closed. I feel we have different values at times. We haven't slept together in over a year. I don't desire him anymore. I wish I did. I do feel resentment at times. I really struggled moving to where we live and feeling very lonely being a new mum. But this was years ago. That was the reason I went on ADs. His work always comes first. He's very much a risk adverse, sensible type of guy which initially I found great but now just bugs me as I want to enjoy life and laugh. I don't feel we are on the same wavelength. He lives to work. Occasionally we talk about it or I blow a fuse and we have a mega row and then go back to just being civil with each other again. In general we get on fine. It's like we're housemates. I know this story is probably the same for many people. Kids come along and relationship suffers. Right now I don't really want to go out on a date night or whatever with him but I also don't want to do anything else drastic. I just know i'm feeling very sad and that my marriage is not what I want it to be. I will look into logistics of what to do if I feel I cannot get past this but I'm also very keen to hear more from others who also felt things weren't right but managed to change things around without going down the divorce path.