Left out of work do

[Leftoutworkydo]

Recently before Christmas, some of the women I work with were saying they didn't fancy going out drinking with other staff for the Christmas do. I suggested another option for this month and they were keen .
So they've now organised this and I'm not invited! It's bizarre as I usually (or thought I did) get on well with them. There's loads going. Not me.
I've done small favours regularly for one of the organisers and it's going to be difficult not doing it anymore. Too outing to mention. It doesn't put me out but I feel like telling her to do one to be honest.
I am wanting to leave anyway and this has spurred me on.
Thankfully I don't see them that often. I am hurt by it but am going to try and not show it. I'll paint on a smile.
Has anyone experienced similar?
I've never known anything like this?
Some of the women going are lovely and they wouldn't have done this. But they aren't organising it.

I’ve experienced this scenario before, a works do was arranged and open to all but those who weren’t approached and asked to attend felt slighted. It wasn’t kept secret from them or anything, but was perceived as exclusion. It’s possible that has happened here, perhaps not

Yes that's it 😁

There's a couple not invited who the organiser has good right not to (major drama). I just get on with my job and am polite to everyone. I definitely don't appeal to gossips but that's ok. I won't be everyone's cup of tea but who is? Although I do work with a few who are really nice people. Can't fault them tbh.

I didn't post in aibu because I'd get a pile on there. But I've had some here who have understood.

Thanks for listening. That's all I wanted really as can't go now anyway. Even if they beg 😉 I'm not back in now until after it.

I'll update if I get any clarity?

if you won’t ask then whats the point?

That’s really unpleasant of the organiser. I would absolutely withhold the favours going forward. She cannot behave like that without impunity.

This. On another thread abiut being left out at work & from work events op waa advised to document it as it is bullying. The organiser needs calling out on it.

But the OP wasn't the only person not invited. If I invited a bunch of people I know from work to get together outside of work, it's not a work event, and it's not workplace bullying. The OP doesn't like the organiser, who doesn't like her, she can't actually go, is unusually bust, is looking to leave the job, and says herself that if she'd been invited she wouldn't have wanted to go but would have felt obliged to because it had been her who originally mentioned the activity -- it seems a bit disingenuous for the OP have have posted on here about being 'excluded' when multiple other people were also not invited.

@LetThemFume can you copy and paste where I said I didn't like the organiser? I can't remember posting that? I rub along ok with everyone. But she probably doesn't like me for some reason? I'm not sure why you keep posting you seen way too invested for some reason? Maybe try and find a life? Sad really.