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Blanket wars!!

10 replies

Bumblebeehee · 03/01/2026 00:24

i will start off by saying this is light hearted and nothing deep!!

It probably doesn’t help that I am pregnant, although only in second trimester so this shouldn’t be so much of an issue yet!!

I find it difficult sharing a bed with my husband- we are both healthy weights but he takes up 3/4s of the bed with his bent legs and millions of pillows everywhere! He tosses and turns a million times, gets into bed late from work late and thumps around (tries to be quiet to be fair). He is tall too.
I also do bend my legs and probably toss a bit more now. He says I move my legs diagonally across the bed which annoys him!! We both don’t snore but we end up shouting at each other in the middle of the night about space or stealing blankets!! We joke about it in the morning.

We have a king size bed and have spent so much money changing the mattresses (and bed) a few times, have nice cotton bedding and good pillows so it is comfortable. So I am not doing that any more! However we both find we can sleep better with our toddler who is in a single bed. What’s that about!

Surely I am not the only one here…. Any advice!!

OP posts:
ShesTheAlbatross · 03/01/2026 01:18

Separate duvets

CookingFatCat · 03/01/2026 01:20

Two double duvets.

Devilsmommy · 03/01/2026 01:31

Make him sleep on the floor 😂

ThroughTheRedDoor · 03/01/2026 01:35

We have an emperor sized bed and separate duvets. I have no idea what dh does at night.

This shit saves marriages. Honestly.

rainbows40 · 03/01/2026 01:37

A body pillow right down the middle will sort that out!

MooseBeTimeForSnow · 03/01/2026 02:18

Double duvets. Stayed at a hotel in Prague that did this and we wondered why we had never thought of it.

ActiveTiger · 03/01/2026 04:11

Apart from one friend couple I don't know anyone that doesn't have separate beds in relationships or married, everyone sleeps so so differently and lack of sleep can make for bad health

FinallyHere · 03/01/2026 07:46

Separate duvets, beds , rooms.

makes visiting so much more fun too

Bumblebeehee · 03/01/2026 10:17

We ready have separate duvets so that doesn’t work as they get mixed up. A pillow down the middle causes chaos too as it gets pushed one side or the other.
Apart from seperate bedrooms I don’t think we have many options! I think the issue is that we both move too much, don’t know how you can stop that!!

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FinallyHere · 03/01/2026 10:32

Sleep deprivation is a form of torture. I’d encourage you to do whatever it takes for you each to get some good quality sleep. And then think about what might work long term.

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