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Late gift from partner

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Carol52 · 02/01/2026 09:10

My partner and I don’t live together anymore after trust issues and other things like .we still do a lot as a family. For Christmas he asked what I wanted and I said I was unsure . He bought me a microwave because he said I needed a new one. 😳. Anyway he said he would get me a present I then said to him just before Christmas I would like a bag. The bag went in the sale so I have mentioned it a few times and he said jokingly I think? I won’t go word for word but basically sexual activity etc and you can have it. I said No that’s line you are buying me . He has said this many times since Christmaslast night when he left he said here’s the money . I said no it’s ok I did not want it thrown back in my face . Now I feel dud I do the right thing should I if then the money. Hr has been quite controlling in the past and I did want him to throw it back at me. Did I do the right thing. I will save up and buy it myself at done point.

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bloomchamp · 02/01/2026 09:12

The right thing to do right now is end this relationship and be kinder to yourself x

Makingpeace · 02/01/2026 09:18

You didn't know what you wanted, he still bought you a gift, it didn't live up to your expectations so you asked for a different gift and are upset he hasn't got it for you, so he gave you the money instead to treat yourself. And you're still unhappy with that. Hmmm. He might not be great at choosing gifts but he has clearly tried here. Him asking for sexual favours in exchange for what you want is not on though!

All that aside - relationships are built on trust. If there's no trust, there's not really any relationship, is there.

Move on.

Carol52 · 03/01/2026 11:31

Thanks for your comments. That is my promise to myself this year to be completely independent of him

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