Someone tell me that I'm being irrational!!!!

[PersonalClown]

I NEEEEEEEEED it.
Only been with DP for about 6 weeks but he has been a friend for over 15 years so we have a lot of history.

His Xp rang Sunday morning at 8am crying and saying she needed help.
Background-She cheated on DP for the best part of a year then left him for a bloke that hits her. She's 5 months PG by him.(not dp)
She said that DP was right and she shouldn't have started seeing this bloke (shouldn't have cheated but thats my opinion).
Anyway...Dp is a very caring, loyal bloke. He would do almost anything for those he cares about and so feels almost 'obligated' to help.
She is staying in the flat next door to his with her friend, ringing him every hour or so and is currently having dinner with him at my neighbours about 10 doors up.

He has reassured me that He feels nothing for her and doesn't want her back. He says that I have given him faith in women again.
So why is my 'danger' radar clanging like Big Ben??

Someone Slap me, I am being irrational and being jealous does nothing but cause problems!

Well think you should suggest that he 'cools' the contact with her.

Don't say its her or me but, yes, he has shown his supportive side and now in my opinion he is either trying to make her jealous (as charleycat suggests) or needing to keep encouraging her for some other reason. Nether of these are good for you!

So now hes done his bit there is no reason why he needs to go there again!

Regardless of the history, it's pretty rough to be 5 months pregnant and in this situation. Your bloke is one of the few people she has to turn to, and he's just being a decent person.
You shouldn't let it worry you, it's natural to feel wary, but don't let jealousy get the better of you. She doesn't sound an attractive prospect anyway!

Yes but he has been there for her, but now he has his own life to live - so the compromise has been made

Ok Now I'm confused!!!
That's what I want to think Sazisi but that alarm bell ringing loud and clear in my ears.
I certainly wouldn't go running to my ex, especially if I had cheated on him and broke his and his DD's hearts. But I guess I have a different perspective on things.

I'm going to hang back and see what plays out till the weekend. I've already said that I wouldn't contact him till Saturday to give him space but he almost demanded that I phone tonight!!

She is getting emotionally dependent on him.
It is not helping her in the long run, if he lets her become dependent.

Also, even though he is done with her, sometimes it is hard to break patterns that we have with people.

I don't understand why he needs to be so close if she has done such terrible things to him...surely he would want to back off??

I think he is walking on dangerous emotional ground here.

Good Luck

Emotional dependence - that's the phrase!
Clown, you need to sort this out. [firm but friendly face]

Yep you know I thought the same thing when I came away from this thread. Let's look at it this way - is it being 'fair' to her to let her depend on him too much, especially now he has YOU in his life.