Getting a Clare's Law check

[DontWantToSeeYouInYourUnderpants]

Hello. Is it possible to do this when the person isn't you? It's a situation that I think is adult grooming.

I believe anyone can apply for a Clare’s law check ,it was suggested by the police when my daughter had to get the police involved when she split up with her boyfriend . You just have to apply for one with an online form .

I believe anyone can. They will only tell you about any violence or abuse the person has on their records. It doesn't necessarily mean the person is safe if nothing comes back, it could be they haven't been caught.

It's worth noting that it is a criminal offence to share information disclosed within a Claire's law to third parties.

All the information is here
https://clares-law.com/what-is-clares-law/

Thanks. I wouldn't share anything. However would that put him on a radar? So if he does anything in future the Clare's Law request would be taken into account?

The information will only be shared with the person in the "relationship" [if they want it], no matter who made the application.

And no. No "radar". Thousands of innocent requests are made. There's no tally kept.

I've made the application. I've given no details about the woman but as much as I can about him and also stated that it's a safeguarding matter. I also said I was concerned that he found out about me making this application because he could get my personal information from her.

You would have to give information about the female in the relationship OP. The police will not contact him for a Clare's Law application. He will never find out, unless she tells him.

If it is grooming then you can report this to the police anonymously but you will have to give the details of the person at risk so they can investigate and do the necessary safeguarding. The Clare's Law application can run alongside any investigation and may help the person you're concerned about make a decision as to whether they want to stay in a relationship.

They've never met. It's all online grooming.

Are they likely to meet? @DontWantToSeeYouInYourUnderpants

In what way is he grooming her?

She's housebound. He's told her she's his secret love, better than his wife, thinking about her all the time, she's special, deserves sexy underwear etc, blah blah blah.

I can see why you would be concentrating that this may develop into something. It seems more inappropriate rather than criminal at the moment.

Can you not just anonymously tell his wife? Get her to naturally put a stop to things?

Does your friend have a social/support worker? A family member that helps woth finances or that you can talk through your concerns?

I help with finances. She's got two sisters who live overseas.

I don't see how I can tell his wife. I don't know her from Adam. My options would be contacting her through Messenger or snail mail. He would know it was a contact of my friend and it could also be counted as malicious communication causing distress.

No support or social worker but it's something to consider.

It would would only be malicious communication if it was grossly offensive - so it wouldn't.

In that case the you're just going to have to keep the links of communication open with your friend and tell her your concerns.

The only thing the police could really do here is a Clare's Law but you have to give them her information. They will not tell her that you have requested it, although from your posts she will probably guess. They will then make contact and establish whether the nature of their relationship meets the criteria.

Has he asked her for money? Sounds like it could be the beginning of a romance scam

No I don't think so. He's not an African scammer, he's local (ish).

I'd keep a careful eye on it. Romance scammers can be local too and very convincing

I've had a long conversation with the police who got in touch. They asked for her details and they're going to be obligated to do a safeguarding check on her now. She's going to know it's me.