Options please about a useless husband

[Allmenarebastards]

He has told me he would kill himself if I leave him what should I do please advise me of what i should do

OP look on Women’s aid website about the threatened suicide

only he is responsible for keeping himself alive - it’s not on you at all

Crack on mate. Call his bluff

Leave him. He just gave you an extra reason.

This is a tactic used by abusive men to further keep their target in line. You are not responsible for him.

Hi, OP. As it's such a sensitive thread, we've moved it from AIBU to our Relationships board. This page also might be useful to you.

Someone with a username called allmenarebastards starting a topic about a man potentially unaliving himself....

,"unaliving" jeez we're not silly children.

If you wish to say complete a suicide then say that but using silly language doesn't help anything or anyone.

With such an important topic complete clarity is called for. Use adult words.

As others have said OP this is not your responsibility. If he is feeling this strongly then he needs to refer himself to a crisis team locally.

Sorry, I'll remember to ask to use your copy of a thesaurus the next time I reply to a thread.

Announcing it like that and for that reason says it's definitely a control tactic.

You say something that demonstrates to him that it's not an effective control technique and you're not going to engage with it, like "well, I would be very sad if you decided to do that, but you're an adult and it's entirely your own choice what you do."

If you're feeling nice maybe add something about him potentially getting counselling to help him deal with his feelings.

If you do leave and he does call/message you telling you he's going to kill himself, then you don't engage, and you call the police and send them to do a welfare check on him. Every time he does it. And you'll find that soon he stops doing it as it won't be giving him the result he's looking for.

Best of luck.