Arguing all the time, 8 month old

[GreyLemur]

We have an 8 month old baby who is absolutely amazing. DH is a wonderful, hands-on Dad. But we are arguing and falling out all the time. I can't fault the help and support he gives me with the baby, we just fall out about decisions to do with the baby, the way I speak to him, the way he speaks to me, there's just always something. Two disagreements over Christmas have really left me feeling fed up and like I've had enough. We've barely spoken all day and usually we are quick to forgive and forget. Similar experiences?

Yep, after you have more kids you realise there is not one right way to do stuff with babies and it’s silly to fall out over it.

Relationships are a series of raptures and repairs. A relationship where there are never any arguments is, basically, doomed. It's less concerning that you argue and more that you are sulking for extended periods of time. Maybe a sit-down is in order to talk about what's (really) going on.

Yep, totally same experience. Such a big life change plus exhaustion and navigating the changing relational dynamics. It really affects our relationship if I'm honest so totally get you.

Is it tiredness that is making you snappy with each other? Can you sit him down and say look I hate us being like this with each other, we should be able to discuss things without rowing.

Both of you need to be able to make an effort to communicate more kindly and be more mindful of each others feelings. It's not a nice atmosphere for a baby to grow up in if parents are frequently arguing.