I am so lonely

[Norwegianwood35]

I split up with my husband in 2021, and this Christmas is the first time I’ve felt so lonely and really sad that I have no one in my life to share things with. I’m not meaning my adult kids, but a partner. I just really felt it this year and I have been quite sad.

I am almost mid 50’s so it is very unlikely I will meet someone else, I’m not interesting in online dating, I don’t really go out anywhere as my friend group tend to meet for dinner or coffee.

it will probably be unfair of me to get into a relationship with someone as I wouldn’t be able to trust them (ex cheated), and that wouldn’t be fair on them.

I see on social media pictures of my friends and their partners/spouses, my family with their partners/spouses. Even when I was at a coffee shop before Christmas, I would sit and watch people with their partners and I don’t have that anymore.

I just feel so lonely.

I understand how you feel. Been separated a long time also. It’s not easy. Why do you think you only felt it this year if the split was in 2021?

I think I’ve always felt it, but it’s never felt as bad or affected me as much as it has this year. Maybe it has really just dawned on me that Im unlikely to share my life with someone again. I don’t know.

I don’t understand why you assume you won’t ever meet anyone else. I know people in their 70s who’ve met new partners and got married.

Hi op maybe open your mind to a potential relationship your lonely you don’t need to remarry and lots of people don’t trust 100%. Op also when you look at others you think they are happy and in love but they might be lonely not everyone has a happy content relationship some are bloody awful you only have to read some posts on here to make you realise how lucky, blessed you are, don’t give up just because he cheated there could be someone out there that will be suitable for you. I have read many posts on here of married couples being lonely.

I hear you but I know two people over 55 who have settled down with great new partners last few years. It does happen

I hear you, I'm 55 and left a 30 year marriage in 2022.
I also have adult children I'm close to, and friends, but miss intimacy and companionship, even though I like living alone and dont think I will ever want to marry again.
There is an injunction against my violent ex so I really can't put myself online so I dont really see how I can meet someone.