I’ve been ghosted.

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I’ve been ghosted after 18 months together, we had a disagreement, always over the same thing but not frequent disagreements. He’s late 40,’s and moved back in with his mother earlier this year and she controls all he does, if we had plans for the weekend and she told him he needed to do xyz he would always cancel on me.
anyway we had a disagreement on Monday after he was meant to come to see me last weekend and didn’t show up, no explanation til late Sunday evening he popped up with a sorry love been hectic message, and a disagreement ensued Monday morning and poof he’s disappeared not to be heard from whatsoever, messages have gone unread, I assume he’s ok!
I know I’ve dodged a bullet but ghosting really at his age! Not to mention not having the courage just to have a discussion and end things bloody hurts.

Did he definitely move back in with his mother? Wondering if he actually moved in with a partner and she has found out about you.

Either way he sounds weak and pathetic. You dodged a bullet! (That's assuming he is actually ok!!)

eugh I had one of them , only it wasn’t his mother it was his female ‘best friend. The only thing we ever argued about. You’ve dodged a bullet it would never get any better .

I wondered this quite a bit, I’ve never met his family and when he moved with his mother he had to be home for his dinner, once he moved back I never knew his address just the area

Yes his mother was the only thing we argued about, oh I know I’ve dodged a bullet but it’s the way there was no closure that’s hurt

I wondered this quite a bit, I’ve never met his family and when he moved with his mother he had to be home for his dinner, once he moved back I never knew his address just the area

Nobody in their 40s has to be home for dinner unless they have a partner to whom they couldn't explain not being home to.

I’ve gone around this so many times, but I can’t think of a plausible explanation of where he would be every weekend and over night.

Yeah exactly this. I suspect it wasn't his mother. I'm sorry.

mine ended abruptly too after nearly 2.5 years but by this time I was absolutely sick of the bullshit. It’s looking like his ‘best friend ‘ was possibly actually his dominatrix but I’ll never know the truth now . It will get better in time op .

I’d try and do some digging, did he ever mention an ‘exes’ name? that may not actually be an ex! Social media clues
It does sound very suspicious, 18 months and never invited round his to meet his mother and where he lives.

No, never had any ex’s names dropped, never added on social media so I can’t look at that. I really dont know where to start digging, apart from seeing a couple of pictures of his sisters and mother at a birthday meal. I know where he works and that’s it

Digging around to find out the truth won’t make you feel any better. Ghosting is cruel and childish and he’s made a clear statement that he doesn’t care enough to communicate with you.
I’ve been exactly where you are and you can either drive yourself crazy trying to work out why, or take this as a sign that he’s not interested and start to move on. You’re only prolonging this by allowing him the headspace he doesn’t deserve.