This is my first Christmas time of living on my own with the children. Im so thankful that i made the decision to divorce. It was 26 years of being together. This time of year would fill me with the usual dread - non stop drinking because its christmas/holiday from work woohoo. Except it always started off jovial but ended in us tip toeing round the house, getting shouted at, doors being slammed etc etc. on a normal week he was working full time but any time around this was spent drinking, no parenting and no household tasks. Id estimate around 70 units a week of alcohol. its been an emotional rollercoaster since splitting up, im not going to lie but honestly i just feel free! He moved out in the summer and whilst we remain on good terms for the kids, i keep him at arms length. The kids aren't arsed about seeing him and if they never saw him again i dont think it would bother them. Hes barely stepped up with them since he left, pops in on a weekend for ten mins but parks on the double yellows outside the front so i know hes not staying long. Ive had to ask him to take the kids out a few times (17&13). Which his social life comes first and it takes a lot of puffing and panting over when he can fit them in…he has no money you know (still can afford sports matches/weekends away with mates and pub pints on weekends)…. Sad really. Anyway, looking forward to the new year, moving house and a fresh start.
i just want to say, i put this off for so long. I was stuck in limbo not knowing what to do but its all working out! If youre also stuck in a relationship and want out, there is the option, you need to take a leap of faith. Put yourself and kids first. We have a lovely peaceful life now ♥️ xx