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Bad luck or something in the water?

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singledatingloser · 27/12/2025 13:37

So feeling kinda sucky.

had a 3rd date planned yesterday with a guy who I thought it was going really well with. even bought me and my kids small xmas prezzies (he hasn't met them yet - just being kind I think).

we have planned to meet yesterday evening, but heard nothing all day so message to confirm, and he messaged few hours later that he completely forgot and picked up extra shift volunteering.

have had another was cancel for later in the week which would have been a 2nd date.

did mention if it was due to other dates going well that would be fine but just said it was due to family stopping by (which given the convos I dont believe).

getting annoyed I invested so much time not using the apps as was looking forward to seeing what would happen with either of these. hate dating!

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singledatingloser · 27/12/2025 13:38

sorry for typos - typing too fast!
just want to add I do understand time of year is busy - but when you show interest and then week before meeting just dies off I think its a red flag.

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LifeSurvior · 27/12/2025 13:55

Buying your kids Christmas presents after one date is a massive red flag OP.
Saying he " forgot" a prearranged second date is a massive red flag OP.
You have done the classic over investment after the first initial date.
He's literally a stranger you have had one date with who has now gone flakey.
It's not something in the water, it's dead in the water!
Throw this one back and don't allow yourself to get so lovebombed/ over invested so early on again x

NarwhalBuddy · 27/12/2025 13:58

I agree about over investment early on, and also it can be the time of year OP.

Some people want to date, and want a ready made partner, and then Christmas kind of comes and goes and they don’t want to put the effort in.

I would just wait and pick dating up again in the new year.

lastminutepicks · 27/12/2025 13:58

Are you saying 2 men have cancelled dates or the same man cancelled date 3 then cancelled date 2?

Hoardasurass · 27/12/2025 14:01

If you've got 2 guys on the go at the same time why are you getting invested with either of them?

OneShyQuail · 27/12/2025 14:01

What on earth did he buy your kids?! And who did u say it was from when you gave it them?!
Agree with other comments, hes a stranger, 1 or 2 dates is nothing....dont get over invested so early on or OLD is soul destroying

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singledatingloser · 27/12/2025 14:55

LifeSurvior · 27/12/2025 13:55

Buying your kids Christmas presents after one date is a massive red flag OP.
Saying he " forgot" a prearranged second date is a massive red flag OP.
You have done the classic over investment after the first initial date.
He's literally a stranger you have had one date with who has now gone flakey.
It's not something in the water, it's dead in the water!
Throw this one back and don't allow yourself to get so lovebombed/ over invested so early on again x

Agreed.
it was after the 2nd date - still very early. So yesterday would have been 3rd deleted. Deleted the number and unmatched on the app.

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singledatingloser · 27/12/2025 14:56

lastminutepicks · 27/12/2025 13:58

Are you saying 2 men have cancelled dates or the same man cancelled date 3 then cancelled date 2?

2 different men.
yesterday would have been 3rd date . The other would have been a 2nd date.

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singledatingloser · 27/12/2025 14:57

Hoardasurass · 27/12/2025 14:01

If you've got 2 guys on the go at the same time why are you getting invested with either of them?

I’m not invested. It was more disappointing that both cancelled back to back.

id say I date 1-2 guys at a time and don’t date multiples weekly. But perhaps I should 🤷🏻‍♀️

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singledatingloser · 27/12/2025 14:58

OneShyQuail · 27/12/2025 14:01

What on earth did he buy your kids?! And who did u say it was from when you gave it them?!
Agree with other comments, hes a stranger, 1 or 2 dates is nothing....dont get over invested so early on or OLD is soul destroying

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I told them it was from one of my girlfriends who they know. Never introduced my kids to any man before

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lastminutepicks · 27/12/2025 15:01

singledatingloser · 27/12/2025 14:58

I told them it was from one of my girlfriends who they know. Never introduced my kids to any man before

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You should have said ‘no, I don’t even know you, thanks but no’

Catza · 27/12/2025 15:35

Hardly warrants a post. Early dating is just one of those things. I say you did well to get them to show up in person to begin with. 99% of OLD men are just there for the texts.

OneShyQuail · 28/12/2025 16:05

singledatingloser · 27/12/2025 14:58

I told them it was from one of my girlfriends who they know. Never introduced my kids to any man before

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What did he buy them?
Really odd if you ask me, a stranger giving you gifts for kids hes never met?
Think you've been saved from something here OP if im honest count your blessings!

MissMountshaft1 · 28/12/2025 16:08

You can bet your life he wasn’t volunteering!

is his favourite pastimes - library and helping sisters?

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