Hi so I have a 10 year old son who has adhd and autism, 10 years ago when he was born I wasn’t with the father, however I allowed my son to have a relationship with him and his family which was great as they treated him really well. They come from a money background and I am just the normal run of the mill mum with a small two bedroom house and I’m a nurse nothing too flash about me. All the time he has gone to his paternal family they have spoilt him rotten, extravagant presents and holidays a great life more than you could wish for. So when he returns to me it’s very boring I would say normal life, tea time chill time bath time bed time. I have also treated my son the best I can at birthdays and Christmas the usual throughout the year. Even though he has autism and adhd if he has been doing something wrong I have told him off, not many times to be honest. So the night before Christmas Eve, a bombshell was dropped on me he and the grandma turned up as I thought he was being dropped back to me, I got basically told he doesn’t want to be with you and he said he feels “intimidated” by you and scared of you he doesn’t want to be alone with you or return home. Obviously I was besides myself devastated as the night got on I was heartbroken. I suffered verbal abuse from the father as I tried to contact him to have a conversation I was shut down, told my feelings don’t matter and that they have decide the plan and that’s it. I have swopped messages with the grandma she has tried to show empathy to me not sure if it is genuine as I don’t know how she and her son let my son come home to me at Christmas time. I have been in such a state for the last 3 days and don’t know what to do, every suggestion I make I get told you can see him for an hour there or half an hour here, he said he doesn’t want to be with you on his own. Thoughts or suggestions? I am desperate.