First christmas after sudden separation

[Mumto21234]

Anyone else hanging on by a thread emotionally trying to get through this festive period?

Split with ex h in summer after discovering EA when I was pregnant. Ex now with affair partner. Now have a toddler and newborn and a completely different christmas to what i ever imagined. Feel like ive been close to tears all day and just want to fasy forward to after new year so I can breath again.

Yes hanging by a emotional thread too

your not alone

I’m told it will get better. Different circumstances to you - I’m alone today through choice as I couldn’t bare being the spare at someone else’s Xmas

all I’ve eaten is roses and a banana - completely incapacitated

how about you?

The first of anything can be hard after a separation but remember why you left them and be comforted that you have taken a positive step for yourself. Christmas is a rubbish emotional time of year... plus it's cold, dark, and everything shuts down... so I feel your pain and promise it gets better in time.

Didn’t want to read and run. Sending you a hug. It’s understandably difficult for you. I’ve been here as a single parent and I struggle with Christmas I just try to think of it as one more day and focus on my DC. What can you do for yourself today?

Felt fine when doing presents etc then christmas dinner just felt bleak thinking of what could have been. But it's another first ticked off the list and I hope to god next year can't be any worst, I dread to think what would need to happen for that to be the case.

I look forward to the better days ahead that people talk about!

Bless you, so sorry you went through this. I hope it gets easier. Remember that he’s a piece of shit when ever you feel down!

So sorry Op can imagine that must be hard but you know what be proud for having self respect and not begging for him back.

Many would have stuck around until the 3rd,4th etc affair partner “for the kids” each to their own, but I think it takes real guts to accept when it’s over.

Doesn’t make it any easier for you though. Yes hopefully next Christmas will be better.

Keep going @Mumto21234
One foot in front of the other.
One day at a time.
One hour at a time.

And when needed, remind yourself that you a free of a man whose moral compass is so poor that he cheated on his pregnant partner.

Long term, you will rise and rise.

So awful this year, but the necessary action in order to guarantee many happier years ahead without people who treat you as an inconsequence instead of the centre of their world.

Sending you a big hug. I know it doesnt help much, but if you’d still been together this Christmas all it would really mean is that he was still hiding and deceiving, and the illusion would be false anyway.

Loads of us out here super proud of you for doing what you need to do for your own self respect and your kids happiness. 🖤

I'm in the same situation but sadly we lost our baby shortly after I found out about his affair. I'm so sorry you're going through this too, it's just awful. I hope you managed to make the most of a really tough day yesterday. Take care

Thank you everyone. I feel better today than I did yesterday. Having to co parent with him is hard, especially when he doesnt make the kids as much of a priority as he should but I will give him enough rope as the saying goes
Glad first christmas is over, now to get through the next week and hopefully start the new year afresh!

@Moosecat29 I am so sorry for your loss. How are you doing?

Just wanted to say this is my second xmas in this situation and it's a whole different (better!) world. Don't get me wrong, ex is still awful and the situation is still very unpleasant but I'm in a whole different place and very very much more positive. Things do get better! Hang on in there