Why did he like then unlike my post?

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Instagram - he liked my story (it’s a love heart reaction symbol), last night at about midnight.

Then this morning at 10am, liked my instagram post on my actual profile. Then removed the like 10 minutes later, alongside the heart on the instagram story

Why would he do this? Mind games? For context, old flirtationship I haven’t seen since college but got in contact with again recently. Have briefly spoken over instagram but the conversation came to an end a few days ago after quite a bit of back and forth

Put your phone down, come off social media and go and live your life in the real world.

I'm having a massive issue with instagram at the moment.
I like a post and then it unlikes itself. Happens a lot to me.
Maybe this is a possibility. I know I'm not the only one having this problem.

Grow up. Seriously! Who gets this worked up over a post on insta?

Are you 12???

Not mind games - he’s probably has a wife/girlfriend he doesn’t want seeing posts he likes.

Men don’t send mixed messages. If he liked you, you’d know about it. They’re really not that complicated.

And then asking me how my Christmas is and what the best part is of Christmas in the Cotswolds

he's using you instead of bookings.com to recommend somewhere in the Cotswolds to take his wife or girlfriend for a romantic New Year break.

how touching.

An hour, good grief. Do you not do anything other than check social media. He obviously does. You really need to stop this. It's ridiculous. Are you 12?

He likes you but he is not interested in you romantically. You are fine to have a conversation with if he is at a loose end, but not important enough to keep the conversation going if something else more interesting is going on.

If he was romantically interested he could message you from the toilet, no matter how busy he was, or how cripplingly shy.

Really confusing as he has now -
confessed he always fancied me
had arranged a date and place to take me out
thinks there could’ve been something between us and maybe, who knows he says, if there is with a praying emoji

But still takes bloody ages to reply to anything

An hour is nothing OP. I think you need to get off Instagram for a few days and see how you feel when you come back.

If this were shyness rather than an accident, would you really want to be with a passive man that doesn't know what he wants & keeps you guessing? That will be very unattractive after a while.

Why do people do this? Just leave the person in peace

Because they love the attention, the game of it.
You think you might be special to him, but that's because you can't see what else he's doing online. There's a good chance he's doing this with quite a few women, and he's learnt that he gets more attention by liking and then unliking than he does simply by straightforward likes.

Oh OP - he wants you to come chasing! I wouldn't bother.

Don't reply and instead post photos you of having a wonderful time! He'll hate that 🤣

Are you young OP? Have you had any adult serious relationships?

It's probably unwise to obsessed over likes on SM.

If you like this person then call them and speak to them or meet up with them? If they don't want to do that then ignore them.

How old are you?

He probably pressed on it in error then removed it when he realised . I’m always doing that !

Pro tip: Delete Instagram, forget about messaging and meet the guy in real life and have a real life conversation, otherwise you might as well date ChatGPT.

Is this the same guy you posted about on the 25th, when you found out he was actually married/in a long-term relationship? No wonder he’s taking a while to reply, he’s probably having to make an excuse to his wife/partner to sneak off and text you. I don’t want to sound judgmental, op, but I’d keep a lot of distance between us if I were in your shoes.

Urgh.
He wants to fuck you, no strings attached, and he's putting out feelers to get an idea how desperate you are.

Good luck.

Gosh dont tell her that. She probably will then be sat on her phone for the next 3hr waiting for a response.

And start thread number 5 about him

Look, my lovely, unless you're still early 20s, you have a lot to learn about men.
This is a man you've not seen for 6 years and even then he was just some friend (at most) at college.

Now you're contacted him again and got this steamy text thing going because for whatever reason you're desperate to have sex with him.

And like any man when it's handed to him on a plate, (unless you're the world's ugliest woman) he isn't going to say no.

My advice is you take a long hard look at your dating history, your relationships and see if there is anything you can learn.

Because you are incredibly over-invested in this man who has offered you nothing other than a few meaningless compliments and some sexual banter.

Raise your bar higher and don't throw yourself at a man who is likely to be toying with your vulnerability.

Who knows

Sigh…who knows?

He’s bread crumbing you.