Very slow replies. Is he interested?

[sleepaways]

Started speaking to someone I knew 6 years ago.

No messaging at all at the weekend. And painfully slow replies during 9-5 when he’s at work - as he is busy in a job you can’t casually whip a phone out to text. Fine. I wouldn’t expect communication during working hours.

But radio silence in the evenings. Absolutely nothing. And 0 at the weekend. Not a word. Come Monday morning, he messages a reply to something sent Friday. He said it has been a hectic weekend. Again, normal as we’ve just started speaking.

What I find odd is he only ever talks to me during work hours. Not when he’s home, when he’d presumably have actual time to talk?

Part of me wonders, does he actually have a family? And has chosen to keep silent about it - His social media has old pictures and nothing to hint about his current life

He isn’t really interested, is he? It’s a shame as the text have a lot of content and seem genuinely interesting catch up type texts.

He’s married or living with someone who takes a keen interest in his phone activities.

Just block him and don’t stroke his ego or waste your time. He’s married with kids.

That he only contacts you when he's working, he's married or living with someone and you're a potential side chick.

But have you actually asked him if he’s single? Does he know you’re romantically/sexually interested in him, or does he just think you got in touch to reminisce? Because if he hasn’t claimed to be single, I think you just chalk this up to experience.

Yesterday I found out with some degree of certainty that he is indeed married/long term partner

1% chance it’s nothing be I saw be ‘liked’ a funny sketch about the wife screaming at you to empty the bins when you walk through the door

@sleepaways - his unavailability in the evenings and at weekends is all the evidence you need to know he’s not single. You need to move on. This guy is not for you. Hopefully a nice, available guy will appear in 2026!