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Toxic environment for stepson

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mrchill · 22/12/2025 17:06

Please help, I’m very worried about my 7 year old “stepson”. His mother and I have been together for 3 years she moved in 5 months ago.

she is very hostile. This mainly stems from her insecurity and lack of trust issues. She regularly shouts and smashes things about. Makes threats and is generally abusive. A lot of the time we have her son with us, (50/50 custody with dad). I’m very worried about how this is affecting him, often he will just sit in the hallway staring at the wall.

I’ve tried getting her to calm down and see what she is doing but she won’t listen. I’ve now started to threaten to call dad and get him involved. My main concern is for “the boy”.

my other concern is she has nowhere else to go. She had no savings although does have a reasonable steady job. I want her to leave but know she has no support network/family.

please help I don’t know what to do.

OP posts:
Endofyear · 22/12/2025 17:30

Sorry, why have you moved this woman in when she is an abusive, hostile person? You've been together 3 years so this behaviour can't suddenly have started out of the blue?

You need to contact the child's father and if he won't take action, social services. Then you tell her to leave. If she truly has nowhere to go, she can present herself to her local council as homeless - they can find her emergency accommodation. Please don't wait, you need to act now to safeguard the child. He is being damaged by his mother's behaviour.

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