After an emotionally abusive marriage I started to date again and met a lovely guy about a year ago. It's remained a fairly casual relationship but I certainly had strong feelings which grew. The last time we saw each other, it was lovely as usual, but I had been wanting a bit of reassurance that everything was OK as we hadn't labelled anything, he hadn't met my kids (my choice) but I just wanted to not keep things a secret and be sure that I was in a relationship. There wasn't anyone else involved. He had recently lost a parent and it brought him that I wasn't fully integrated into his life, or him mine. I had never asked where i stood previously. He eventually answered me to say he just had a lot going on at the moment sorry. Then hasn’t been in touch since. I did send another message to ask how he was doing and clearly state that I would like to keep seeing him once things calmed down - this has been read but not responded too. He is grieving but after a year together surely that's no way to leave things? It seems so jekyll and Hyde compared to the type of person he was when we were together. I'm in the middle of some major stuff in my life too and he knows this, so to leave me hanging is pretty devastating. We're in our late 40's so you expect a bit more awareness from people. Have I really misjudged his character that much? I'm blaming myself here