Okay, firstly, I need to say I'm not a shameless harlot, and I do respect the sanctity of marriage. I'm not asking for advice on leading a married man astray, so please, no judgment on that.
There is a man who, from the outside, seems to basically fancy me a bit and shows it. Or that's what I'd think if it were my friend describing his actions to me anyway.
He works somewhere I visit as a customer on a very regular basis and over this year, he's gone from polite chat (him - "how are you", me -"I'm fine thanks, you?" and that's about it) but also hovering, always making a point to speak to me whenever I'm around, speaking more than once per visit (going away and coming back), to seemingly looking for me when I walk in and making eye contact when I'm still over 10 feet away then holding it, waiting for me with his back to his work, little comments about being useful - and all of this has been initiated by him while I'm basically ignoring him - I'm polite and answer briefly if he asks how I am, but I don't elaborate or encourage conversation, just get on with what I'm doing and then leave.
We're now at the point where he's walked with me a little bit after I've already said goodbye and started to leave, and he continues the conversation a bit. I've had compliments (just ones like you're a lovely person), light arm touches as a goodbye, standing closer than necessary, things like that.
I was sure he fancied me and was trying to work out whether I felt the same.
Then recently I spotted a ring on his wedding ring finger, so alarm bells rang.
However, on slightly closer inspection, it's not a traditional wedding band. I won't go into details, but it's a ring that can be used for marriage, but also is a normal type of ring.
So... either he's married, which is my default assumption, or he's widowed/separated/it's not a wedding ring and it just happens to be worn on that finger. He does have a couple of rings on his other hand too and he's an older gentleman so I'm not sure if that makes a difference to anything.
I've never been so sure someone likes me, only to discover a ring! Oh and he's not like a big flirt either. He's reserved, quiet, doesn't banter with colleagues etc.
I'm assuming he's married anyway but if you were me, would you try and find out, or maybe just actually have a conversation and see if he gives anything away?
Just to reassure everyone, I've never flirted. In fact, if anything I come across as closed, guarded and he keeps trying to open conversational doors and I politely shut them again, which might be a reason he hasn't given up any personal information yet...