Hi all,
Looking for some outside perspective as this still bothers me and I’m not sure if I should just let it go.
We had a very small wedding (35 guests) with only our nearest and dearest. It was meant to be a classy, elegant reception. My husband’s brothers (and niece) decided it would be “funny” to dress up as inflatable chickens and make an entrance during the reception. One of them even stood on a chair. They’d planned it in advance and hadn’t asked either of us — particularly not me. Apparently one had wanted to do it in the church but was stopped.
The music then went wrong while they tried to find the theme tune, which made the whole thing more awkward. On top of that, one brother gave a speech that went on for about 45 minutes, went completely off piste, and he’d had too much to drink. It was very uncomfortable for guests and honestly humiliating for me. I had to laugh it off at the time but was very upset.
Afterwards I was told they did it because my husband loved chicken run and because they thought the wedding might be “a bit dry” otherwise due to being small and having no entertainment. My guests were visibly shocked.
This fits a wider pattern of self-centred behaviour from them. We now have a child and have put some boundaries in place, and as a result we see them much less. They’ve more or less drifted away since we stopped bending over backwards. I can’t imagine them behaving this way at someone else’s wedding (especially now one brother is engaged).
My husband is fairly neutral — he doesn’t think it was great, but doesn’t feel as strongly as I do. I still feel embarrassed and angry, and I don’t think I’ve forgiven them.
So…
– Am I overreacting holding onto this?
– Was this as disrespectful as it felt, given the context?
– Or should I genuinely try to let it go?
Interested in honest opinions
Also I met with sister in law yesterday and gave her presents - beautiful candle and a big hamper for the family to enjoy. We were given a bottle of yellow tail Shiraz. As usually extravagant gift givers I think this speaks volumes.