Should I tell old friend?

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I found out recently a woman I was good friends in 6th form has passed away. There was me and 2 other woman that were all friends. One of them was best friends with her for 15 years but the woman who passed away fell out with her over a bloke. Is it worth me telling the other friend? I know it bugged her that the friend who has passed away fell out with her. It has shocked me as she was only 41 and a nice person.

I am sorry for your loss. Yes, tell your friend. I'm not sure why you are reluctant to tell her. Will she regret not reconciling with her? She is better off knowing, than not knowing. When you tell her, sit with her and let her process the information and support her. I'm sure it will come as a shock, as it has to you. In these situations where you feel you have a choice between easy and hard, choose hard. If you don't tell her and later on she finds out you knew and didn't tell her, it could affect your friendship. I'm not sure if this is helpful, but I wish you all the best.

Are you still friends with the other woman or has that drifted over the years?
If you’ve drifted, is telling her about the death also in the hope you’ll rekindle the friendship?
Are you worried about her reaction if she tells you about the death and you say you knew?

I fell out with the other woman years ago. She had a tendency of treating her friends like dirt. I have told her and she said thanks for letting her know and I said ok. I was surprised she responded. I didn’t want to rekindle the friendship as she had hurt me too many times and hurt others but I thought it was right to tell her about the death.