Have DD1 who is 3 and DS2 who is 7 months old.
Since the arrival of DS2 things have gone downhill in the relationship, I feel I can’t really point out a single cause, seems like partner is always unhappy about something and picking arguments. It started with him complaining of not enough sex and when I thought we had worked through that it has just been a constant argument that has become more and more conflictive and he has said terrible terrible things, so I completely shut down.
he suggested couples therapy, said everything I do triggers him and that he doesn’t have the tools to work on improving it. I thought that was a good step forward but since that suggestion and me going for an initial session with the therapist we have had more arguments and he is now saying we are separating. One part of me thinks I better go and start afresh with my children in a healthy environment but on the other hand I also still love him and I’m terrified and I am so heartbroken.