I’ve posted before : my situation got really bad resulting in me having to take out a non molestation order against my ex who’d I’d been in a ten year relationship with (thankfully he’s not my sons bio father) He’d been controlling throughout the relationship, would be very manipulative and use his relationship with his ex wife as a triangulation technique. We split in 2023 and then gave it another go (which was down to my stupidity and Inability at that time to see the bad in him ) we’ve been split for good now for three and a half months, he was awful at the end I have over 100 abusive and vile emails. I’m meant to be a fairly intelligent, educated woman and I just feel a bit lost. I have lovely friends and parents who are very supportive, a decent job and a wonderful son. But sometimes I feel utterly alone and pathetic. I’m in my 40s and single and don’t see what I have to offer. I don’t even trust men now or my own judgements and I certainly don’t feel in a place to date or pursue another relationship (I’ve had two long term relationships since 19 including this awful ex) I don’t even know why I’m posting, are these feelings normal after exiting a toxic situation? I don’t know how to sit with the feelings of sadness and overwhelm when they happen 😞I’m having CBT and have been referred to trauma based counselling, I’m seeing friends and getting out and about. But sometimes I feel so low and find myself missing the good parts of him which I know were false. Any words of encouragement gratefully received.