Few months back, during a silly argument my husband shouted at me so I told my husband he was just like his brother. (He doesn’t like his brother and due to the way he treats his wife I once said I’d never stay with a man who treats me like that). Due to that remark I made, my husband told me our marriage was over coz he thought I wouldn’t wanna be with a man who is like his brother etc. My thought was, if he loved me enough he’d try everything to prove me wrong instead of telling me the marriage was over. So I left the house with my toddler and applied for homelessness etc and I was put in temporary accommodation. Throughout this whole journey from beginning to end, I was alone with my toddler crying my eyes out for the fact he made us go through this over something I said. He never apologised, never took responsibility, never felt remorse that went through that. I came back myself because I didn’t have the strength to be a single mum and I apologised for saying he was like his brother. I had forgotten about this incident, we are happy otherwise like his a good dad etc.
Fast forward, his bro and wife had argument few days ago so she came to ours with the kids. She was going through the same things as I did, only difference was she had somewhere to go and we helped her fill out the homelessness forms online. She didn’t had to go council with her toddler waiting there hours just to be put in a concrete cold temporary hostel room. She later made up with her husband and went back to her house but remembered I told my husband he was just like his brother, I actually started feeling really shit because I realised my husband is worse. Because her husband called and messaged her all day long begging her to come back, my husband was there supporting the kids telling them his there for them etc. When she went back het husband got her flowers etc to make her happy. He also agreed to see a therapist about his anger problem. I’m actually happy for them, I’m not jealous but it made the feelings come back to surface.
I just felt I gave in for nothing. This guy doesn’t actually love me, I literally came back on my own… I haven’t recovered coz he never apologised, he never done anything to make me feel happy after the incident.
if I bought this up and opened my feelings to him, I know 100% his gonna call me ungrateful coz he takes me on holiday, he lets me spend etc but doing this isn’t meeting me emotional needs.