Husbands/Dads social life

[teachermum23]

If you have small children, what are your husband’s social lives like? (Individual and joint activities)

Thanks 🙂

I basically organise/ encourage him to socialise. He usually goes out once or twice a month with his friends but there can be gaps where he doesn’t. We will socialise with joint friends a few times a year in the evening. He’s not really bothered and too knackered from working.

It’s not unusual for a lot of dads to not have much social life at all.

I'm Dad. When DD was little, I'd usually go out twice a week.

Pub quiz on a Tuesday night, leaving the house after DD would go to sleep.
Few pints on a Friday with colleagues, usually home about 7:30pm, but sometimes it'd be a late one. Neither of these were an every week thing, and I'd happily skip them if DP had anything on or DD was being a nightmare, so I reckon I averaged about 1.4 nights out a week.

DP didn't go out much when for the first 6 months after DD was born, but after that would usually go out on a Saturday night with her friends, usually rolled in about 2am.

He sees his friends once or twice a week, usually for the pub or football. We have a date night once a week just us two, then plus other activities as a family/ad hoc events that come up, then we also see our friends three or four times a month (usually we go to one another’s houses as we all have kids)

DH didn't used to go out that much when ours were small .... I had to encourage him. He did go to the pub Sunday lunch times occasionally and the odd Friday night. He's still like that (in our 50s), whereas I'm much more sociable. We used to go out together quite a bit, his parents lived nearby so used to babysit, we were very lucky.

I went out with friends much more ... drinks/meals/weekends away.

Dh used to go to the gym 3 times a week but then set himself up in the garage. He prob goes to the cinema once a month then a pub night with friends once a month. Our dc are older now so childcare isn’t a consideration but he’s a bit of a home bird.

Dad here.

Was usually out for a couple of hours one night a week to play 6-aside football with friends for some exercise (when not injured).

Apart from that, maybe 2 more times a month for either a football match, gig or a quiz night.

It went down a lot when our little one arrived.

At the most once a week or so? Sometimes once a month or less.

Partly coz it's never top of the priority list when family has needs, but also partly I'm just not that sociable - chat to family and work, once a week with friends on top of that is kinda enough for me.

DH didn't have much of a social life when kids were small.
He's always been very dutiful though.
He went to occasional gigs but rarely on pub nights out.
His friends were all in the same boat!