Husband being rude and dismissive

[Wishfulthinker25]

Hi all- I am new to this but am just fed up with my husband being rude to me. Example being today- got the train into town and he just walks ahead, not bothering to see if I am seated, on the way home- walked ahead- not waiting for me to get a ticket- saying that I could get home how I wanted and he was getting on that train. Proceeded to raise his voice at me on said train saying it’s my f*ing fault for being unorganised and not having a ticket etc etc just really humiliated me. This kind of abusive behaviour increases when he drinks and leaves me feeling really angry. I have had enough- does anyone else go through this?

You should never have to put up with that kind of behaviour from anybody, never mind your husband. The sooner you realise there are far nicer people out there to be spending your time with that actually care about you the better. These kind of men will drain the life out of you until you have nothing left.

Is he always like this or is he annoyed/in a mood about something and taking it out on you?

If I am honest to myself, I think he has had these tendencies for years, I even see it in his interactions with others. I have overlooked it as he can be the kindest and most generous person. It is almost as if his mask slips at times and he can be really quite nasty and hurtful. I have been in a fairly reliant position financially on him but am trying to get into a more secure position myself that would enable me to go it alone. I just end up questioning myself as he can be so lovely- it is really confusing.

I wouldn't put up with him being so rude and nasty and you shouldn't either! I don't care if he's nice sometimes - there's no excuse for the behaviour you've described. You deserve better.