And so it begins…

[ForLoveNotMoney]

I have been in my relationship for 4 years. We are happy, house hunting and planning to marry in the next couple of years.

Before I met him I had been dating on and off, as you do. In the last 3 days I have had 2 messages and a missed call from 2 separate guys I had very brief dates with, about 5 years ago. The usual, long time no see! What are you up too?!

I’ve ignored them both but why do men do this around Christmas time? I mean, I am flattered (not!) but it’s a bit sad on their part 😂😂

Could they have seen you on social media looking great? Have you had a glow up?

Was having this conversation with my dsis just yesterday. An ex of hers popped his head up a few days ago. My dsis and I both felt the timing was all about him wanting company/ distractions during the Christmas season. He knows that she loves all the Christmas events, light trails etc. I think he’s bored and wants an invite to Xmas dinner and a Festive Shag.

I had this too, but it wasn't Christmas! Two successive ex dates (well, one was a guy that I'd been with for a few months, the other I'd just dated) phoned me; this was several years ago. I concluded that they'd found themselves single again and just gone back through their contacts list to see who might be single and up for another round, to save themselves having to go through all the grind of meeting new people!

Probably drunk at a Christmas party and hopeful you might give it up.

It’s Christmas, everyone is making plans to spend it with family and all their friends probably have partners who they are expected to spend the holidays with - they have just noticed that they are alone and have nobody to celebrate with, particularly on New Years Eve. They are hoping you have nothing better to do than hook up with them for entertainment. I find these messages usually come when they’re out on their Christmas night out and they’ve drunk far too much, they always come in the early hours!

I would actually welcome that this year! Went through a divorce at the start of the year and my FWB is visiting his family overseas for Christmas. If they were local and easy on the eye, I would say send them my way 😂

I had this last week! A man I went on two dates with sending me a message 😁 I figured he’s working his way through his contacts and had reached my initial.

Loneliness.

i wouldn’t you ch an ex at this time of year with a barge pole , it’s pure desperation.

i had this too last week 😂

Men always circle the drain and pop back up. It’s beyond embarrassing and they don’t get a response out of me.

It’s so odd!
I never had them on social media and long deleted their numbers, years ago!

I could understand if it was recent thing but the most recent was 5 years 😂

I’m not in a relationship but I have had a few “ghosts from the past” pop up recently, including some who I had met through online dating but who it never went anywhere with… must be a seasonal thing!