Feeling so sad

[brokenbiscuitsadness]

ExH and I divorced last year after 30 years marriage.
My head knows it was the right decision but I still feel so sad.

Today I can see on Life360 that DD is with him at the Xmas tree farm we used to go to as a family. It’s something so innocuous but has totally floored me especially as he is likely to be there with GF.
I feel such a wave of sadness and loneliness even though I’m in counselling and doing everything I can to move on, whereas he just seems to be living his best life. 😞

Hiya I'm so sorry.
It's all the little things that were, that aren't anymore.
It's just sad, I understand.
Sometimes I think social media, apps and tracking just makes it so easy to stumble across things.

Christmas particularly, old traditions.
Have a big hug xx

I‘m so sorry, this must be incredibly hard.
He’s not necessarily living his best life, he’s just living his new life.
You’re obviously doing the right things re helping yourself and getting support, so applaud yourself for that even when you feel at your lowest.
Christmas and family traditions hit hard when you’ve suffered a loss, and the loss of your marriage after thirty years is colossal, so be kind to yourself and treat yourself whenever you can.
You’ll get there, when you feel stronger you will be planning things for yourself and DD. Would she enjoy a Christmas market or just a local jolly to do a bit of Christmas shopping? I know it sounds trite and pathetic when you’ve been through emotional Armageddon, and a Christmas Market trip isn’t the answer to your profound grief, but getting out with your DD will feel more normal and break through some of the loneliness. Even if you don’t feel like it, give a little trip together a try and you’ll feel like you’re living and accomplishing things. Every small effort is a triumph when life is weighing you down. No achievement is too small to be celebrated when you feel so down.
Start planning Christmas things and new traditions for yourself when you feel able to. It’s perfectly normal to feel like this, it’s a grieving period and Christmas time amplifies grief, so breathe, realise his new life is just that, new, not necessarily better or best.
Cut yourself some slack and know that when you’ve got your emotional strength back you will find yourself again and create a lovely life for yourself. Sending you all good wishes X