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Dating Advice

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dfghk · 07/12/2025 05:39

Hey guys. I’m having trouble with dating.
It’s hard in these streets. I met this guy and we were talking for two days and everything seem fine till today he asked me to send him pics of me. I told him I don’t have any cause I didn’t feel like explaining why I didn’t want to send it. He seemed upset and replied with Oh 😑 No problem. Then I asked him how his day was and what he does for living. Just trying to make convo. He read my message and didn’t reply for an hour or so. I quickly unmatched cause I just got that gut feeling he wasn’t going to respond. Am I crazy for unmatching? Was I rude for telling him I don’t have any pictures? Should I have explained why? Should I have waited liner to see if he replied? I just knew he wouldn’t reply cause his energy shifted. He replies instantly. We were chatting constantly non stop these past two days and it was weird for him to read my message and not respond. He usually responds. Am I crazy? I have no patience these days when it comes to dating. There’s more to it but this is just the short version

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Meerkatmanor4 · 07/12/2025 05:46

Sending pictures was not a thing in my day.

Don’t do anything you are uncomfortable with.

TheThingOnTheIce · 07/12/2025 07:47

Do you mean nudes? Surely he’s already seen normal pictures of you ? If not then I think he’s reasonable to want to see what you look like for a potential date…

AhBiscuits · 07/12/2025 08:03

Oh I hadn't considered you might mean nudes. Is that what you mean?
If you just mean normal pictures, you're being unreasonable. I wouldn't chat to anyone without some clear pictures of them. Why don't you have any?

Lurkingandlearning · 07/12/2025 08:07

The thing with messaging is sometimes people can be interrupted mid conversation and not think of texting to explain they will be back later. The other person might then feel ignored. So maybe you didn’t wait long enough. If that is the only reason you have unmatched that was a bit hasty. But if there was something else that was making you feel uneasy, even just a nonspecific uneasy feeling, then you have done the right thing to follow your gut feelings

smallsilvercloud · 07/12/2025 10:27

You were not rude, I’m so glad you did say no to more photos. Unfortunately there is a lot of men that use women online as entertainment for endless pics, they are hoping it will turn into nudes for them to wank over and have no good intentions of seriously starting a relationship.
If by chance you do chat to a decent guy, he’ll be more interested in planning a date than pressuring you for more photos.

LittleJustice · 07/12/2025 11:02

Yeah. The ones who endlessly text and ask for photos are bored with no intention of actually meeting up or pursuing a relationship.

Anyone decent stands out a mile imo, and they are there, just few and far between.

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