Hi so i think ive always had a low libido and have always been able to either take it or leave type way. But recently I just have zero interest in having sex I would quite frankly rather do anything else. I have tried to talk to my partner how I feel and he just shrugs it off. I can say I’ve never really initiated sex at all in my life, I’ve never really felt like I’ve ever wanted to (apart from the new relationship stage right at the beginning but quickly go off it) i am a mother of 3 in my mid 30’s and they were all born pretty close. I just think I’m exhausted from being a mum, partner, cleaner, cook, basically running around after everyone and not having any time for myself for anything. My partner just can’t seem to fathom it & always compares his busy and hard work life to my stay at home mum life.
i Want to be able to enjoy sex but nothing seems to get me in the mood and to be honest I have concentrate so hard and tense my stomach muscles to even be able to start to enjoy sex (is this normal? I’ve always found it quite hard to reach an orgasm but haven’t had to try this hard) and sometimes I just think f it I can’t be bothered which obviously isnt ideal for either of us
can anyone help and give any tips please