My situation:
Im a single mum, I have a teenage daughter (who doesn’t see her father) and who I don’t see much of because I’m always busy. I currently work 13 hours shift, travel 3 hours a day to & from this work place, have a local job on my days off and also studying a degree so have assignments. It won’t always be like this but for the next 9 months atleast.
My partners situation:
Has a 12 year old daughter who he see Tuesday and Thursdays for tea and alternative Friday to Sunday. He currently works full time Monday- Friday also and alternative weekends when he hasn’t got his daughter.
What I am struggling with:
I am struggling because I am the most who does the house work ect, and it can be quite challenging so sometimes I may not get everything done on a particular weekend and may add this to my to do list for the following weekend. Especially when my partner is working all weekend and I cannot lift heavy (due to being post op). So when asking my partner if he will help the following weekend, he refuses because he has his daughter and wants to spend time with her which is understandable however, on the weekends he’s working I’m not getting time with my daughter also because I am doing stuff round the house. So I am getting abit overwhelmed, exhausted and stressed.
Another pattern that is becoming apparent to me is when he doesn’t have his daughter we never spend time together with my daughter as such, planning is always done based around when he has daughter. Would anybody else feel offended by this? I always incorporate this, I plan weekends away so it involves her ect, and around her club trips ect. He mentioned going to the cinema this weekend (he doesn’t have his daughter) and that it would be our date night so only me and him going without my daughter. Baring in mind, cinemas don’t particular involve talking anyways so I can’t understand why my daughter wouldn’t be invited to tag along aslong as it’s 15 or under (at this point we weren’t set on a particular film). He would never suggest us having a date night when he had his daughter on a weekend. Additionally, I’ve noticed he is always tired due to work which is understandable but when he has his daughter he always sends her upstairs when we sit down to watch television which I find unusual because I’m happy with her sitting with us as my daughter is at an age where she always sits in her room anyways so this bit does confuse me and kinds of contradicts himself.
What are your thoughts?