Hi, I need some advice because I’m not sure how to handle this situation.
I’ve recently started seeing a guy, and we haven’t been intimate yet. However, I noticed a small bump on the skin in his genital area that could be a wart.
It worried me, and ever since then I’ve felt myself pulling back. I don’t know what the right approach is — should I talk to him about it, should I ask directly, or should I just distance myself?
My fear also comes from past experience. My first boyfriend had genital warts, but back then I knew very little and we didn’t use protection. I never developed warts myself. I only once had a Pap smear that showed HPV, but it wasn’t high-risk, and the following Pap was completely clear with no sign of the virus.
He had cryotherapy a few times and they would disappear and come back.
Now, I’m wondering if it is reasonable to ask him openly what the bump is?
Would it be awkward for him, or is honesty better?
Is my fear justified or am I overthinking it?
And how do people usually handle it when they notice a possible wart on a new partner?
I’d appreciate any advice. I don’t want to ruin something that could be good, but I’m also worried about my own health.