What do you do when your DH is verifiably wrong, tell him or let it go?

[Noshadelamp]

My DH thinks he's right and I'm wrong about a lot of little every day things. I can literally google it but he gets so annoyed when I tell him.

I'm just so fed up of him telling me I'm wrong when I'm not. Sometimes I am but not always.

Would you let it go or would you tell him, even if he's going to be annoyed?

An example that prompted this post: there's a road near us that has very tight bends and there was another accident today.
I said it needs those convex mirrors you sometimes see on tight bends, but he's said they are only for concealed driveways, never for tight bends.
He used to be a driver for his job and drives more than me, and said there's norhing in the highway code about the use of these mirrors for bends.
This part is actually true, but i know I've seen them, and Google says they can be placed by councils for tight bends.

See it's a silly every day thing but they build up and it's his attitude that he thinks I'm stupid and knows nothing that annoys me.

He has to be the oracle of all that is correct. Either just accept that he is always going to be right, or preferably get yourself out of this situation. He is trying to belittle you and make you doubt your rationale. You are worth more than this if he cannot see anyone else's point of view. Discussion to me is light and life.

My friend’s ex husband was like this. Once, we al went to Tenerife. I’d been once before, he’d been ten times. I mentioned something about there being no time difference on the plane there and he laughed at me and said ‘of course there’s a time difference, it’s abroad’ I obviously corrected him but he wouldn’t have it, kept saying that he’d been loads of times and tried to make look stupid.

I just laughed when we landed and there was indeed no time difference. He also once tried to convince me that his NVQ was the same level as my degree. It wasn’t. He went on for hours about it and I just categorically knew he was wrong.

I was so glad when she divorced him, it was insufferable.

This is true. I don't value my opinion as worth more than DP's at all. We debate. I do however know that I have a better grasp of facts, and so does he. But given the facts he still has different opinions, and that's good.

I can’t really relate, as I’m never wrong. 😂

I usually say something along the lines of

'Look, I'm 43, a fully functional adult and manage a team of 15 staff. I'm not a complete fucking idiot and I know what I'm talking about.

So fuck the hell off you arrogant little man.'

The last part is optional. But bloody mansplaining really pisses me off.

Me and DW used to prove each other wrong…it just led to both of us being pissed off! Now we just agree to disagree and move on with life. In my day to day the name of Burundi’s capital city has little impact anyway!

My ex would have said “Oh right, cos everything on the internet is true!” then thrown a strop.

My DP now would do his own googling and say “Oh yeah, you’re right!”

Dh does this and I did lose my shit a few weeks back when a road was closed and I had to come home another route. I was describing the route and dh “corrected me” as he decided I must have come a specific way. I didn’t. He wasn’t in the car yet was adamant he was right. I was like wtf?! I seethed for 24 hours and then had a full on rant that I wasn’t tolerating it anymore. I do not need the man who loves me to belittle me and treat me like an idiot. I got a distinction in my masters recently and I’m not an idiot so don’t speak to me like I am (masters not really relevant to the route I drove but that’s where my head went). He did properly apologise.

Oh dear, mansplainer extraordinaire. Very annoying.

There’s not many things that make me jump on the ‘divorce him’ bandwagon but this is one of them. There’s no hope for a person so pigheaded with so little respect for their partner (or facts) that they sulk about their partner checking stuff on google. I mean I don’t know if he only drove inner-city route but you do see those mirrors in the countryside on bends and awkward T junctions.

In psychology circles we would probably jokingly say ‘the dunning-Kruger is strong with this one.’ Look up the Dunning-Kruger effect…. and probably book some relationship counselling to get this sorted. Probably with a male therapist he might have half a chance of believing.

I mean, neither of you sounds like a barrel of laughs.

My partner only very occasionally insists that I’m wrong but when I show him the verified evidence he always backs down and admits he was wrong. I make sure to point it out every time to keep the boundaries firm and clear. He works in a management role so he needs to be kept in his place a bit at home. 😂

Make a joke of it. Laugh at him.

I think it's got worse since phones too much inaccurate factoid information.

Was easier when there was only the morning paper to read.

Oh yes this is me and my husband 😂 both of us are “know it all’s” and struggle with this. I now pick my battles, if it’s not something that will directly affect us eg something incorrect about changes to our mortgage, kids health/food, or something I specifically know more about through work/previous studies, I’ll just try and brush over it. He does the same. But still kills me and it’s what we argue about occasionally