Because DH is. I think he is depressed and although I think he would admit to feeling quite low I don't think he will accept that it is actual depression and I don't think he'll go to the doctors.
Over the past 3 years he has become an increasingly negative person, always focussing on what we don't have, has this view what we have isn't good enough that we should have more. He's always had limited patience but it's got much worse recently and I feel that our poor 3 year old gets it in the neck for such small things.
I feel totally dragged down by his negativity and feel I'm turning into the same. His presence chages the whole mood of the house. Even if he'sbeing jovial and playing with DS1 I'm just hovering around on eggshells waiting for him to lose patience.
He used to say how he always felt guilty about not seeing enough of the DS's and he has always bathed DS1 as part of their time together, but now although he still baths him he sits there reading a fucking book, not connecting at all. I want to scream at him when I see this.
I can't live a life like this so how the hell do I start the converstation that we really do need to have.