I’m not sure if this is the right place to post, as it isn’t about a relationship, but hopefully I can get some advice…
I’ll start by saying, I’ve been single for about 10 years, since splitting up with my childrens father, who I was with for just over 17 years. I made the decision when we split that I would stay single whilst the children were young, I didn’t want anymore children and I didn’t want the complications of a blended family. I therefore haven’t had a relationship or dated, so very out of practice at this sort of stuff.
For the first 7 years I didn’t meet anyone that I was interested in in that way, or even think about it really, I think I was just set in my mind that I had made my decision to stay single. Then, about 3 years ago I developed an attraction to someone at work, not a colleague but someone I see and work with a few times a month. It took me by surprise, and I sort of laughed it off to myself as a crush and thought it would wear off quickly. But 3 years later, it hasn’t. I’m pretty sure he has no interest in me, I think he would have showed some sort of sign if he had (though I don’t know if I would even recognise it as a sign, it’s been that long since I’ve been single and available).
I’m finding that it’s taking too much space in my head recently, and the more I try to forget about him, the more I think about him. He’s even invading my dreams ffs. So I need strategies to stop me from liking him in this way, how do I put it out of my head? I’ve been trying and failed for the last 3 years