Is it my fault?

[jellycats27]

My husband has been working away for a month while I single parent our toddler. He just got back and I had spent all day tidying to make sure house was spotless. Now a few days later I have just had minor surgery for biopsy wich means I cant do any heavy lifting or anything for a few days, he had a go at me today saying the house is a mess (there is a lot of stuff on kitchen island and our child’s toys all over living room floor) and I said I cant do anything about it now because Ive been told not to tiday and I said it was tidy when he came home and he just went off on one saying its all him never me and that I just shove things into cupboards and he is sick of living this way and cant wait to go abroad again. He hasnt even given me a hug today or asked how I am when I started crying saying I was in pain he just sat there on his phone saying “yeah well it will hurt wont it” 😔 I feel bad because the dishes have piled up last few days (he has been home and ive been working late!) feel so emotional now

He’s a cunt. I’d be telling him to fuck off and do the dishes himself and to not come back home next time he goes away.

You have recently written about your H and you were advised that he is and remains abusive towards you.

How can you be helped into leaving your abuser?. You absolutely need to leave this man before he further wrecks your son's and your life.

YOU are not the problem here. HE is the problem and he has basically gaslighted you into thinking you are a problem. He is also projecting his own self onto you.

He is your abuser and he will continue to abuse you, and in turn your child, so long as you and he remain together.

I read your other thread OP.
Your H is a nasty piece of work who has destroyed your confidence.

It's not your fault. He should be having sympathy with you because of your health issue, not having yet another go at you.

You really need to start taking steps to get yourself out of this marriage.

I would also advise a divorce. Your husband is supposed to support you. Even a decent man who has been away would pick up extra to give you a break.
It's not just your house it's his. Its time to ask him why he can't pick up...an d if he gives you abuse...you know he never loved you and it's time to move on. x

This is such awful abuse OP.

Have you ever thought about the possibility of separating from him. Looking at financially how it could work and what you think he might do access wise. Or try do child access wise.

This man is a disgusting specimen. I feel physically sick reading this. If I could, I would reach into your world and ram that phone down his throat on your behalf.