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Could he be cheating while working away

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Ella3554 · 04/12/2025 07:46

DH has started a new job where he sometimes works away, 2 hours away. Stays in a hotel, works outdoors doing roadworks, does day shift then straight into an evening / night shift.
He’s worked away probably three times now, each time has been a few days in a row. I’ve noticed a pattern now that whenever he works away, he takes his shaver and has a shave. He’s bald and has a beard, for a while now he doesn’t bother keeping his head or beard tidy, doesn’t shave when he’s home but since working away, he shaves in the hotel. He says he likes to take advantage of the nice bathroom and shower, and he’s easier to do it there. The reason I question it is because He used to always shave when he first met me. Is that suspicious he only takes care of of his appearance while he’s working away

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CandyCaneKisses · 04/12/2025 17:14

My close friend used to joke that he was saving shaving for when he was staying in fancy air b&bs to save cleaning his own bathroom. He wasn’t cheating, just working away with more spare time in the evenings than he would have at home.

Arlanymor · 04/12/2025 17:19

VimesandhisCardboardBoots · 04/12/2025 09:52

I shave about twice a month, and work away from home for a couple of days once a month.

I will always take the opportunity to have a shave when I'm away, for two reasons.

  1. It's not my bathroom, it's getting cleaned anyway when I leave, so if I neglect to clean the odd stray hair, then DP isn't going to complain at me about it later.
  2. I'm so BORED! There's only so much sitting in the bar with colleagues, reading my book, or watching rubbish on TV I can do. There's a million better things than shaving I could be doing at home, so why not do it when I'm stuck in a hotel twiddling my thumbs.

On its own, this seems like very scant evidence of cheating OP.

Exactly the same for me - I do more pampering when I am away as the facilities are usually better and there’s space in the day carved out for it. You all get back to the hotel at 5pm or whatever and then agree to meet for dinner at 7pm. Two hours to go and use lots of lotions and potions.

Dweetfidilove · 04/12/2025 17:21

Untrustworthy and unclean ☹️. Does he just shave and leave all his droppings for someone else ro pick up?

That being said. My grooming in a beautiful, spacious hotel bathroom is next level and also include extended, steamy showers so he may be telling the truth.

Forgiving infidelity comes at such a high price. I hope he's worth it, and you've made adequate provisions should he step out again.

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Ella3554 · 07/12/2025 00:02

We ended up having a heart to heart over the phone after he finished work around 7pm. He could tell I was a bit off on the phone and I basically told him how I was feeling. He reassured me and told me if it would make me feel better he wasn’t going to shave at the hotel and he’d just do it at home at the weekend. He carried on calling me throughout the night so I don’t believe he was up to anything, he was with two other guys. So he came home, unshaved and we had a talk. I think this goes deeper than the shaving, I shouldn’t be feeling that way, something isn’t right if I felt that strongly.

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LouiseMadetheBestBroccoliPasta · 07/12/2025 00:14

Ella3554 · 07/12/2025 00:02

We ended up having a heart to heart over the phone after he finished work around 7pm. He could tell I was a bit off on the phone and I basically told him how I was feeling. He reassured me and told me if it would make me feel better he wasn’t going to shave at the hotel and he’d just do it at home at the weekend. He carried on calling me throughout the night so I don’t believe he was up to anything, he was with two other guys. So he came home, unshaved and we had a talk. I think this goes deeper than the shaving, I shouldn’t be feeling that way, something isn’t right if I felt that strongly.

Your gut is telling you something.

The way to access what your gut is telling you is to go somewhere where you will not interrupted, sit calmly and relax, and then quietly, what your body is saying will slide in.

Missj25 · 07/12/2025 00:19

JudgeBread · 04/12/2025 09:01

With my husband I wouldn't consider this a concern because he's never given me reason not to trust him. Hotel bathroom mirrors are actually the best to be fair.

Yours not so much though. If he's already happily betrayed you by texting another woman, he's shown the cut of his cloth right there.

This exactly.

Foresthealing · 07/12/2025 00:21

I think if your gut is telling you something is off it probably is

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