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Am i just overthinking it?

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Bonnie4799 · 03/12/2025 17:16

My boyfriend and I first started dating in 2023 and broke few months later. Then my ex contacted me few months ago, we talked for a while and decided to give us another chance. He works 2 jobs and he becomes busy in December because of Christmas. He picks me up and drops me off at home when he gets off from work on time but that's about the time we spend together most of the time. Even on his day off most of the time, he goes on chores with his mother. We have done the deed like once in a month ever since we got back together and i'm starting to feel lonely. I want to go on dates and spend more time with him. I told him about it but he tells me that he'll be busy this month and its hard to live in this city without working 2 jobs and he wants to collect money for the future. I know its important to think about the future but i miss being in the present with him. Now i can't help but think did i made the right choice to give us another chance or am i just overthinking it? I feel like an idiot and a pain in the ass for thinking something like this.

OP posts:
Lilaclane · 03/12/2025 17:31

He couldn’t make you happy the first time, he couldn’t on the second. Life is too short, op

AttilaTheMeerkat · 03/12/2025 17:32

I’d now end this relationship and furthermore you made a mistake in taking him back. His priorities are still his work and his mother and he has not changed at all. The problems that were there before are still there and it would be likely the same with any woman he dates. None of them can stack up to mother.

You are his beard and he can use his mother and work as excuses for not progressing this relationship. Men like this damage boundaries and self worth.

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