I’ve messaged about breaking up with my partner as he was living a strange double life and cheating.
We have a nearly 2 year old. Due to the nature of the break up I’ve requested Claire’s Law and will get a phonecall by the end of the week. I’ve filed for CMS. I haven’t spoken to him in almost a week - he hasn’t even checked in on his son. But we did agree that if we broke up we would coparent and he wants to be in his son’s life.
I am currently in a better place. I’m eating again, not obsessing over being a a detective and I can sit still (I couldn’t sit still for almost a month!). Whilst every day is very hard and a mental battle, I don’t feel as overwhelmed as I did 2 weeks ago.
It’s the festive season. I personally don’t mind if I never see him again but I know that I should reach out for our son’s sake.
Im not sure what I should do. Wait for the Clairs Law results and then go through the courts for contact whilst having no contact with him - or contact him anyway for a chat - mainly to run through what we do about coparenting, before I take the legal route. My guess is that it is better for us to sort our own arrangement than to get the courts involved.
Any tips on when I should contact him?
He was desperate to reconcile, and we were on the road to but he ended up seeing the woman in secret in that period - so I ended it.
Anyways - would love to hear how others have gotten to the next stage when a young child is involved.