I’m trying to gauge whether a coworker of mine is flirting with/likes me.
We’ve known each other for a couple years because we were on the same team but she started working at my job several months ago. We didn’t talk too much on the team, but since we’ve started working together I seem to notice it a lot more.
I remember the first time I noticed something was when she kept reminding me that we worked together later in the day and I jokingly asked her why she had to keep mentioning it and she said she was “Just trying to get me excited” to work later. That could easily be a throwaway comment, but the phrasing was interesting to me. Anyway, over the next couple of weeks following that we started interacting and talking a lot more and I would notice her looking at me a lot at work from far away.
We’ve talked a lot about school, our future job pursuits and our family. We will also talk and complain about work stuff because some of the coworkers are annoying. Also she asked me if I really wanted to study the subject I am majoring in she said it seemed like I didn’t want it. When she said that it really felt like she was invested in me and my interests.
She mostly teases me and we have lots of running gags at this point (she trolls me for drinking too much soda and does the “6-7” meme thing a lot to jokingly annoy me). She also pointed out a small hole in my pants a few weeks ago and said “I just had to embarrass you”. Also I was eating pizza without a plate and she said I was “crumbing” all over the floor.
It’s 90% teasing but she will also sometimes sneak in a compliment - twice she’s said I must be smart to be majoring in my area and how I should be a manager at the job. I also explained how the managers made me climb some scaffolding to fix something and she said “they chose the right person for the job” because I like climbing stuff.
More recently, I’d say the biggest sign is the proximity. One time I came over to her and another coworker who were talking to ask the other coworker if I could borrow his broom. When I did she shifted over right next to me and I pretended to be scared and back away and she smirked at me. Also she’ll sometimes stand next to me close enough that her hair is on my arm. Also with our water bottles - there’s this really big counter in the main area and I put my drink down and then I came back and hers was right next to (like two inches from) mine. That’s happened twice now and I think it’s notable because of how much she jokes with me about drinking soda. And it seems specific because it’s such a big surface and she goes right next to me. Also twice now she’s handed me a broom and poked me with it, then smirked at me.
Last week I helped her get a cover for her shift and she really appreciated it. When she got back we talked a lot about her being sick and she was kind of walking with me everywhere. There were a couple new employees so we did an icebreaker and she went first. I decided to test the waters and said “let’s change the order” to avoid going next and she immediately said “No my name you have to go next.” Then I said my name but didn’t give a fun fact and she immediately was like “Where’s your fun fact?” Also later on I responded to someone else’s fun fact (they said they had eight pets and I was like “Oh cool I only have four”) and she was immediately was like “Wait I didn’t know about this”. It was like that for the whole talk and she positioned herself in the icebreaker circle so she was next to and facing me (like a right angle). It just feels like it all points to her liking me but I think I might also be delusional… I’m not sure.