POLL -How many woman do a Claire law on a new partner?

[NeedingASafeSpace]

I’m using this to make a personal decision of my on. Please be truthful.

I was told on here to only do one if you have suspicions as it’s not a dating aid. Is there something make you suspicious?

I wish it had been an option years ago when I ended up with an abuser. Would have saved me from emotional, physical and financial abuse. That said, only if an ex had already reported them. I found out after we split that I was at least the third person he had done this to.

Please don’t feel regretful of that too much because I did one and I still went back. Once you’re in you’re in..😢 until you’re out!

Thank you @NeedingASafeSpace these people know exactly how to wriggle past our defences! I hope you're doing ok and in a happier place now.

If you search my username you’ll find out all about the one I did. And how I ignored all good advice. To my detriment.

I did one with no suspicions at all. However I have children and a lot of these abusers don’t show any signs in the early days and before anyone is around my kids I’m going to take every precaution. The police didn’t have the slightest issue with me doing it either so would 100% say do one to anyone

Yeah I have kids too I was still told I was wrong and not to do one and I was misusing the service

Well I don’t think you were wrong at all and as a former Probation Officer would recommend it to everyone!

I did. I had no suspicions whatsoever but my ex-husband was extremely abusive & I wanted to do everything I could to keep myself & my then 9 year old safe. I did the usual things of not introducing them for over 12 months but yes, I did. Was totally clear & the officer I dealt with very supportive & understood my reasons why.
5 years later we are still together, happier than ever. He's aware of what I did & understands why I did it x

Both my sister and a friend used Claires law on partners they had concerns about and both men showed up on there. If I had any concerns or suspicions I would absolutely use it. Both men concerned were very good at gaslighting and being emotionally manipulative, making them doubt themselves etc. By utilising this law they could know for sure that these men were what they thought they were, that they had the same patterns of behaviours to other partners and had done this to others before them. I don't think you've anything to lose by checking

He’s just rang Me loads since I told him he isn’t seeing our son and he can go through court. I’m actually worried now for my safety

He told me he’s gonna see me at nursery tomorrow and that he will turn up at my house

Ring the police to at least log it on their system this evening. Definitely have the check done on him too. Ask at the same time.