OH and I have had some long standing issues within our relationship. We didn’t choose to break it off as we’ve put 16 years into this together. Importantly, we’ve both been faithful to one another. We didn’t want to throw it away!
We have some boundaries and expectations of each other which we BOTH seeked advice for and made sure we both thought they were realistic and achievable. They were going ok for a while …
Then for some reason OH just doesn’t pull his weight and put the effort in anymore. When I pull him up on it, all I get is very weak excuses (usually domestic excuses) and they aren’t really even worth debating. For example : Me “please don’t speak to me like that” HIM “ sorry but you don’t work the same hours I do so you don’t get as stressed” … to some people this might seem funny or a minor problem but when your facing it week in week out it starts to make your feel like a burden. And remember, that’s just ONE of the broken commitments.