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Partner confessed to kissing another woman

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Craftyclaws04 · 29/11/2025 11:18

Hi, I've been with my partner on and off for several months, and we have a serious relationship going everywhere together. After we split for the fist time he booked to go to Turkey with a mutual friend, and we later got back together and I joined them for the first week. Fast forward several weeks and we fell out and split. I know he's stressed because his mum is dying, but we've remained in contact almost every day. We opened up and told each other that we still love each other, that's when he said he wanted to talk to me about something. The following day he told me that after I went home from Turkey he got chatting with this woman and he ended up kissing her. He told me that he told her that he was in a relationship and trying our hardest to make it work. She then gave him her number and told him if it didn't work out between us, then he should get in touch with her, and he has since we split. She was friendly towards him at first, but later said she needed space, so he told her he was going to block her. My ex are trying to work through this as we've gone through a lot together and I don't believe he's cheated in the past. When he's on holiday he drinks a lot, and I'm wondering if this could well be a one off. He told me he felt terrible, but didn't want to tell me as soon as he got home for fear of us breaking up again. Any advice please?

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MCF86 · 29/11/2025 11:42

several months and you're already in a pattern of breaking up and getting back together.
I will be amazed if you get a single reply telling you trying to make this work is a good idea, yet I still think that's what you'll do.

UninitendedShark · 29/11/2025 11:42

Sounds like you both need to just split up, grow up and move on. Your ‘relationship’ comes across as toxic and juvenile, plus if you believe he just kissed her then I’d think you naive.

TheFatCatSatOnTheMat · 29/11/2025 11:45

This relationship sounds unhealthy before you even consider the cheating. It doesn’t sound worth saving.

Lurkingandlearning · 29/11/2025 11:46

Agree with the above. Also as his mum is dying this is probably not the right time for him to be building a romantic relationship with anyone.

Endofyear · 29/11/2025 12:31

Why stay in a relationship that's such hard work? The first few months should be an exciting and happy time getting to know each other. If you've already been falling out, splitting up and getting back together, it's not a healthy relationship. The kiss with another woman isn't the problem here - that's just a symptom of the unhealthy relationship.

Craftyclaws04 · 29/11/2025 14:41

It was going well until a family member interfered. It's complicated and the family member accepts him now.

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