So I’ve entered new relationship, ish.
When i was newly single in 2019 i went through a dating apps phase and we match. We had a couple of dates, nothing serious, spoke about a shared hobby alot. We spoke for around 6 months, became social media friends etc. But i called it off as had the realisation of not being ready, my life was chaos and i needed to fix my life, focus on my own happiness, my kids, my career, a stable home etc and i couldnt do all of that with someone. I needed to do it by myself. He was very understanding of this, no hard feelings, no why did u start something if u werent ready, just honest understanding. Over the past few years theres been the odd commenting on posts, like of pictures but no direct contact.
About 2 months ago he messaged out the blue as he had seen someone who looked like me in his town and wondered if i had moved. We got talking again and honestly i remembered how much i liked him and how if i hadnt been such a wreck maybe it would have developed. We met for a coffee a few days later and it was just easy, chilled, safe. It felt like i had known him forever. We have seen each other 2 or 3 times a week since that first conversation, hes spoken about how he felt really strongly back in 2019, and he understood why i pulled back but he was pretty gutted. How he kept track on facebook, not in a stalker way but when i posted he always thought about messaging and seeing how i was, that i was a one that got a way type person and if the timing had been better we could have worked then. But now it’s so easy. We laugh, have fun, have really good conversations, loads in common, the same hobbies, the sex is incredible. But most of all i can be myself, no filtering, no holding back. Hes a safe place for me.
Well, today hes dropped the love bomb. I didnt say it back. I replied saying i really liked him too and i really liked how things are developing, but i need time before im at that point and ready to say it. I have strong feelings for him but im not there yet. He has since messaged as he was worried he scared me, and Ive explained hes not going to scare me, im all in, im just not ready to say that outloud yet, that he needs to give me time. And he understands. The vibes havent changed, it doesnt feel awkward, it feels safe and like he gets it.
But should i be worried? Is 2 months fast? Should I have responded differently? Im so out of the relationship game im doubting everything. I really like him, i don’t want to ruin things. But is 2 months in too fast. Or ok.
for a bit more infor, all my kids are now over 18, however ive said il still waiting to introduce them, therell be no staying over at mine for the time being. And i absolutely would not consider moving in or anything like that till my youngest has finished university. I laid those out and he understands all of that. Its not moving fast in that sense, its just moving fast emotionally, faster for him it seems.