This is incredibly outing to the few who know about it in real life but actually I don’t care.
been with my partner for 4 years and we have a 15 month old. Two weeks ago he told me that “a while ago” he “started seeing someone”. Long story short she got pregnant and they now have an 8 month old daughter (you can do the pregnancy cheating maths) Needless to say I’m in complete shock. We have both talked about how this relationship has been the most real, we could be our authentic selves, supported and respected etc. we both recently lost a parent each and have supported each other through our grief. Everyone always told us we were such a cute and fun family. And that’s how it felt. Stupid levels of happiness love and fun. We have been discussing marriage, moving to the coast and planning another child.
Now he tells me this. It’s an ex girlfriend, it was always a toxic relationship, she hurt him multiple times (we had talked about previous relationships as you do, so I knew about her before the affair) she has now said she wants to make a go of it with him. After several glasses of wine he admitted he wants to “rebuild” with her. I asked if he still loves me and he couldn’t answer (speaks volumes) I been a terrific partner to him and I just don’t understand why he would choose the pain and toxicity of their last over our family? Not that I even know if I could forgive h anyway. It feels like too much deception.
There are photos of them posing with a sonogram when our son wasnt even a moth old. And another that looks like a holiday snap. The betrayal hurts like nothing else, even when my ex husband cheated it didn’t feel this bad. What do I do now?