Dating in your 30s - confusing!!!!

[justtryingherbest]

I’m 34, split from ex 12 months ago, went on my first date with someone over a week ago where he said he had a great time, and do I want to do something again. So I said yeah! He’s messaged me every day since, constantly talking all day. But he hasn’t once mentioned going out again. I have 2 children, so he knows I have to like ‘book time out’ 😂

I don’t just want to be texting someone, it kind of feels like what’s the point? Am I being ridiculous?!

It feels very much like effort at the moment and I’m happy on my own so I don’t need to feel like I’m chasing someone, we just get on really well. So I agreed to a first date!

Don’t wait to be asked, just ask him? sometimes it pays to be proactive and chase! Not that you should do this every time but it certainly gets answers quicker, then if no firm date set you can take a step back from all the messaging, which you should anyway regardless, just put the phone away and only check a few times a day, it’s not healthy to be on demand for him.

Don’t ask him out, you ll look desperate and you ll let all the losers in.

Why in the hell are you texting with him? Why do you provide constant digital companionship to a wet lettuce who has not lifted a finger to make another date happen? That is the question.

I did come across so many men like this and I'm in my 50s dating. But if somebody is interested in meeting up with you and dating then they will be proactive in my experience.

Who needs a pen pal? Nobody. It seems ridiculous and you would think that these men would want to go out and have fun but if that's what you want and this person doesn't then I would move on personally.