To make it brief my partner has been moody snappy for the last couple of months we have a 6month old baby boy who is great at sleeping so no sleep deprivation happening (at the moment). We also have a 13yr old son he's not biological father but great step dad.
I've been with partner 3yrs everything has been great get along really well few little arguments but nothing major.
Last year 23 December we had to say goodbye to our family dog as he was struggling with health my partner was great with him and it broke our heart loosing him.
We not long got a puppy who is doing great with training so far she's great.
We had our baby boy in may and my partner was amazing during the delivery everything felt perfect.
Going back a few months my partner became distant with intimacy I guess I didn't realise until now how long it had been since we done the deed as we are busy with little one but we would still go out see family and friends which we all get on fine we also go to the cinema just the 2 of us sometimes and his mum would watch the baby so we do make time for the 2 of us.
Last couple of months ny partner became moody,snappy, taking things out on everyone in the household I kept asking what was wrong but it was like I was talking to someone else he would shut me out, mock me, get annoyed for "nagging" at him when all I was doing was trying to understand. It went on and on every other day I would ask him about our relationship and how I would want a cuddle and more intimacy as I missed it again he got snappy to the point I cried and he just watched me cry 😢 said nothing I went to bed he slept downstairs.
Days went by hardly spoke he would always get annoyed with the dog calling her a bitch, slag ect infront of our eldest. I was just looking at him thinking where is my partner gone the happy loving man in this house.
We got into a conversation again and he mocked me and basically refused to acknowledge the way he had been and blamed me, gaslit me maybe and mocking took place again and told me all I do is nag nag nag ( at this point I'm exhausted) told him to pack a few things and we need a break maybe go to his mums for abit he did just that but before he left he said have you been on the "pop" again (meaning have i had a drink) i snapped at him and looked at him in a confused way and he said "look at me all you want with your tarty face" 😬 I was like what! He left and went to his mothers all ive had since then is messages basically saying its my fault I ended it ect he will now live in fear of it happening again but I've told him he cant be mad at me for acting that way due to his actions and I want to resolve ect and I apologised so much I just thought the intense moods and eggshells were too much especially for the kids I had to do what I had to do in that moment I'm starting to think he wanted me to act like that.
He hasn't taking accountability for anything he's done and the things he's said he's just blamed me.
The past few days I have been looking into his behaviour and I'm not sure if I'm dealing with a narcissist my head is all over the place.
I ask him if he's coming home yet to resolve and I never get an answer he's been at his mums over a month now I fractured my toe in 2 places nearly 2 weeks ago and when I told him he didn't even seem concerned didn't ask if I was ok and since then he hasn't asked ive been at home with our baby and juggling things and sometimes I don't hear from him at all.
After he finishes work he comes round for an hour and then goes he then sees our little boy on a saturday but he takes him to his mums for a couple of hours brings him back then leaves.
It's like being with a stranger.
I don't know what to do or think anymore 😕